Tuesday, September 13, 2011

what do you think about LDR?

this question was threw up to my best friend by her boyfriend, after a couple of months they have LDR.
It's been 7 months in exact they doing a Long Distance Relationship between Kuala Lumpur and Melbourne. after around 3 years they have been together. many sacrifice has been made, heaps of sweet memories staking together along with their journey, and indeed, It's not easy to let go one to another.
even to get far from each other, it seems impossible.

7 months, it's long enough to feel the loneliness and emptiness in their heart. they used to have each other in every problems, a warm hugs whenever the cold comes, and kisses whenever the desire of love passes by, and make the world just for them.
now, they need to replace it with the text, with the voice from the other side, from the moving picture in skype or just in frame. there are nobody to give a real action of love, as a couple surround them.
My best friend seems really confident that they can go through this. she has everything she can to make this relationship work for them. she looking forward to their future, having a career in Malaysia to get a PR over there with taking over a hard job, and always look after her boyfriend in overseas, while the guy trying to save money for the phone credit to call his girlfriend.
and in that 7 months of battle, the guys came to my best friend, and asked her about LDR.

He said, he found someone over there...

what kind of feeling that you expected from the girl who fighting for her relationship future, having a whole trust for this relationship going well and listen to such an idiot statement.
but this the reality, shitty things happen...
I'm not going to say about the ending, because it's not yet end.

Anyway, Uncle Bob, one of my Australian Uncle always told me, TRUST is the important base on the relationship, LOVE is not enough. and when there is a betrayal between TRUST and LOVE, that is when the massive pain will hit a person, till the bottom of their heart, and the sad news is, it's normal and always happen. what makes you abnormal if you can't go through it.
especially in Long Distance Relationship, when our love ones is not around, it's actually we have pretty much our own time, without share whole day with our partner, we have more option to select then if our partner is around, for example the dress, food, etc. and we have the right to choose whoever we want to close with and how it is going to be; danger your relationship, or just safety. We have a responsibility to take care of our heart not to be enter by anybody accept our love ones, we choose to be in relationship even our partner is not actually around, we take care of our selves as well as keep in mind that someone loves us out there. we need to put our TRUST more, and don't mislead that trust.

Whenever I see those who survive in LDR, I really proud of them, even though they have the right to choose, and they are away from each other, they always keep in mind that they are the best for each other, and when they can survive, they will have a strong relationship in the future.

I used to have an LDR, and it's survive for 2,5 years and for me it's more safety to have a LDR compare to normal relationship, that is why I'm a gree to have another LDR.
I put trust on my partner as well as he does. and what we believe is we will always have each other whenever we are, we need to take care of our heart because it has been taken, and not trying to cheat on each other. most of the time, when we feel lonely, we asked God to taking care of the other, and deliver our Love. I didn't say that we wouldn't end up cheating or take benefit from each other, but when we do that, we TRUST that God will have His own way to solve this problem, what we need to do is forgiving an sacrifice and see the progress of this relationship.

However, don't ever scared of having relationship, whether you need to have LDR or not, if you are SURE it is from God, just walk with faith, and God will make away.

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